Dr. Gabor Maté: Self-Improvement Can Be an Attack on Yourself

Whatever you think is wrong with you once kept you safe. In this clip, Dr. Gabor Maté and Jay Shetty talk about why we care so much about what others think. Gabor says it starts when we're very young and it follows us for life. Gabor shares the story of a woman who forgot her native language. He explains why her shame was never the full story. He asks one question that shows where you're not saying no. Then he guides a woman through a live session on stage, with a thousand people watching. Learn about the difference between "Have I done enough?" and "Am I enough?" And learn why Gabor says your yeses don't mean much until you can say no. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 Why we live in other people's minds 0:48 The need to be seen as a child 2:34 How do you see someone as they are 5:59 Why we only feel valuable when we're busy 6:36 "Have I done enough?" vs. "Am I enough?" 8:44 The one-day-old baby test 9:15 What stress does to your body 11:50 Why it takes illness to wake us up 12:57 Where in your life aren't you saying no 15:07 Why a toddler says no before yes 17:40 What Elvis gave up to please others 19:06 Gabor guides a woman live on stage 25:12 Why your flaws started as survival 25:59 The woman who forgot her language 29:35 Self-improvement vs. self-acceptance 31:28 Feeling too young to help others 35:48 The one question to ask yourself Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Dr. Gabor Maté: https://youtu.be/TU5GRuqyImI Episode Resources: Website | https://drgabormate.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/ X | https://x.com/drgabormate